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The secret to long-lasting relationships Let’s start by reframing the belief that relationships last long when there is no conflict. Rather, the key is to know how to manage and defuse them. We argue, we disagree, and we enter into conflict daily. If not de-escalated, those discussions end up weighing us down, consuming us, and depriving us of the positive mindset to work and live at our best. Badly managed conflicts can feel like a ticking bomb capable of ruining and breaking our relationships. In the context of the organization and relations coaching course I’m working on, I’ve been reflecting on the research about relationships by the Gottman Institute: it is the most extensive study ever done on relationship stability, with 40 years of study with over 3000 couples. Despite their study focuses on marital behaviour, their results are applicable to any personal or professional relationship. In the study, research shows that the secret weapon for a happy relationship is repair attempts. The Gottman Institute defines a repair attempt as “ any statement or action — silly or otherwise — that prevents negativity from escalating out of control .” Examples of repair attempts after an argument or conflict can be an invitation to go and have a coffee from a colleague, an offer to help with a family issue from a sibling, a goofy smile from a partner, a warm cup of tea from your teenage daughter, or a very powerful “I’m sorry”. The art of repairing includes both making and receiving repair attempts . It takes courage and creativity to make a repair attempt, so it’s very important to notice and acknowledge it. If you’re not quite ready to receive a repair attempt then at the very least acknowledge and thank the other person, and explain that you need some time to calm down. You can attempt a repair at any point in an argument but it’s best to try to repair early before the parts feel physically and psychologically overwhelmed. Repairing is not an admission that the other party was “right”, it is not about winning the argument. A repair attempt is an act of generosity with regard to the relationship you share and the bigger context you operate within. It’s about putting your relationship first, it’s not about “you and me” but it’s about ensuring that your relationship wins the fight. This perspective allows to shift the spotlight from our ego, so that we can take a few steps back and see what’s happening with more objectivity. Of course, trust and respect are essential for the success of the repair attempts. If criticism and contempt dominate the relationship, then the repairs go unheard, the other party withdraws and the conflict escalates and most likely gets out of control. This is true in every context: romantic relationships, friendships, relationships with family members, colleagues at work, etc Now, it’s time for my request/invite for you . In the next few weeks, I ask you to experiment with repair attempts in your relationships. learn to notice repair attempt from the people around you and try to accept them. As mentioned above, it takes courage and effort to offer attempts, so try to notice them and accept them as an invitation to put on the brakes to diffuse the tension and allow a quick reconciliation. next time you have a disagreement experiment with the art of repair attempt by getting creative with your very personal way to help your relationship to win over the conflict. Go and experiment! You will find that more repair attempts will make you spend less time with negative emotions and will help you cultivate healthier and longer-lasting relationships. Looking forward to hearing your comments and ideas.
Transitioning We are always transitioning, as individuals, as couples, as families, and as teams. Transitions are often seen as challenging and scary. After all, we cannot really see what there’s over the edge, over the horizon. While change is an external event or situation that takes place, transition is the internal shift we make in response to it. In the book “Transitions” by William Bridges, an expert on change and transition, he breaks down transition into three phases: Endings The Neutral Zone Beginnings These three phases give us the map and the points of reference of where we are when we transition. Paradoxically any transition has to begin with an ending . Something has changed, there has been a disruption of the status quo and we need to identify what we are losing, what is over, what we can let go, and what we will keep. Secondly, there is a territory (the neutral zone) that is in between and precedes the new phase. This territory is uncomfortable, it feels like limbo. We are not in our comfort zone there. As individuals it produces an identity crisis, of who I am, in relationships creates uncertainties about who we are and in organization creates re-organization, mergers, and so on. Every time we try something new, even just a new behaviour or a new perspective, we are moving away from what we know and identify with and transitioning into the unknown. In this stage, we are creating new processes and learning what our new roles will be . We often try to rush this stage in between, because the limbo is uncomfortable, but it’s critical to give it time so we can effectively process the ending before moving on to our new beginning. Finally, Beginnings involve new learnings, values and attitudes. Beginnings are an expression of a fresh identity. Well-managed transitions allow us to establish new roles with an understanding of our purpose, how we contribute, and the impact we have. And a new process starts. Everything is constantly changing and both positive and negative experiences are part of the process of transition that makes up the story of our lives . Learning to see any experience as a necessary part of the process, and becoming aware of the inevitable tides of life, is important to create some distance from the story we are telling about a situation (often catastrophizing or feeling like victims) and what the ultimate reality might be. I want to leave you with a fable from the Tao Book : “When an old farmer’s stallion wins a prize at a country show, his neighbour calls round to congratulate him, but the old farmer says “who knows what is good and what is bad?”. The next day some thieves come and steal his valuable animal. His neighbour comes to commiserate him, but the old man replies “who know what is good and what is bad?” A few days after the spirited stallion escapes from the thieves and joins a herd of wild mares, leading them back to the farm. The neighbour calls to share the farmer’s joy, but the farmer says “who knows what is good and what is bad?” The following day, while trying to break in one of the wild mares, the farmer’s son is thrown and fractures his leg. The neighbour calls to share the farmer’s sorrow, but the old man’s attitude remains the same as before. The following week the army passes by, forcibly conscripting soldiers for war, but they do not take the farmer’s son because he cannot walk. The neighbour thinks to himself “who knows what is good and what is bad?” I invite you to reflect on this fable by noticing what this perspective can bring into your life. For me, it brings lightness, a reminder that we are all on our very personal journey and that everything can be turned into an opportunity for growth and for becoming more “me” (self-actualisation). Finally, try to notice where you might be in your “transition map”, at this moment of your life. Are you in the neutral zone, at the end, at the beginning? Just knowing where you are on the “transition map” will help you to be more present in your experience, to have the courage to let go of the old, to embrace the uncertainty of neutral zone and finally embark on a new beginning… and grow! Please, contact me if you need support with navigating a particular transition in your life. I’m always here for you, Cristina
How to navigate the festive season? The holiday season is now upon us, with just a few days to go. How do you feel about it? Excited and looking forward to it or stressed and overwhelmed? These are very legitimate questions because, despite the common assumption that it should feel like ” the most wonderful time of the year”, for many of us it’s also the most stressful and overwhelming . At the end of the year, many of us find ourselves battling with conflicting feelings, emotions, and priorities . We may be overwhelmed by family and friends or grieving for loved ones who have passed away. Some people fear having to re-engage with relationships they struggle with or they may be going through challenging transitions in their professional or personal life. Also, being surrounded by people from the past who might not know us as we are today, can be challenging. However, for some people it’s just the opposite: they may not have close friends and family or maybe be reminded of loved ones who are not with them anymore. In addition to all of this, most of us try to make this time as perfect as possible , to put together a great holiday celebration, to create good memories, especially for the little ones or for those who might be struggling. This leads to more pressure we put on ourselves to complicate an already overwhelming time. So, how to navigate this expectation-loaded, intense, stressful time of the year? These are my tips for you : Start with journaling: we have already talked about the benefit of jotting down on paper our thoughts and emotions. So at the beginning of the festive season, take a few minutes to reflect and ask yourself the following three questions , notice the insights and share them with a friend or a family member, who can hold you accountable during the festive times. “What do I want and need from the holidays?” “What do they mean to me?“ “What’s stopping me from having the holidays I wish ?” Traditions are an important part of the holiday season, they create a sense of belonging, connect us with history and help us celebrate our culture. However, it’s also important to notice that, when circumstances change, they might not serve us anymore and it’s absolutely fine to adjust them or create new ones. What do you wish it was different about the holidays? Maintain an empathic and open heart . We all have different expectation and wishes. Also, we might have gone through very different experiences during the past year. This is particularly relevant if you and your family are going through grieving of a loved one. The object is not to look for a general consensus, but to respect the needs of the others and make sure yours are also heard. Keep up with healthy habits . There will be a lot of food, drinks, and conversations. As much as you can, bring in healthy and lighter meals, movement, and rest. This will make a dramatic difference in your mood and will set you up for maintaining a successful routine in the New Year. Have fun ! It’s so easy to forget to enjoy the holidays. Try to slow down, be grateful for what you have and be in the moment. Be playful, call up the child within you, put aside for a while all your responsibilities and say yes to something fun. Play a game with the kids, go out for an adventure or watch a feel-good movie Be kind to yourself . This is probably the most difficult one for the majority of us. As you take time to show the people in your life how much they mean to you, let’s take some time to also show yourselves some love. Set boundaries, say no, and ask for help and for what you need! This leaves me with the opportunity to thank you for your support, for your trust, for making me grow as a person and as a coach, and for allowing me to support you in this beautiful, at times challenging, gift that we all share: our life. My warmest wishes for a peaceful festive season! Cristina
Change is a constant in our lives. Inevitably we go through changes, it might be because of external circumstances, new stages of life, or because of our drive and instinct to find new challenges. A promotion, a redundancy, losing someone dear, a relocation, a divorce, or a new relationship, the possibilities for change are endless. The process of change is a messy one, but it’s also our biggest opportunity to grow and develop as adults and leaders. Yes, we don’t stop growing at 20! To allow change, the first and vital step we need to work on is uncovering what keeps us stuck. We need to unveil and face the strong and deeply rooted assumptions that keep us stranded. Our innate self defense mechanism becomes outdated with time and we need to challenge it by uncovering its underlying false promises. But that’s not all, we are not done here. In addition to unveiling the hidden motivations that obstruct our development, there is another equally important exercise to be done to expand our being and allow change. The idea I’m about to share with you has been researched by Herminia Ibarra in her article, “The Authenticity Paradox”. It might seem confusing and counterintuitive at the start, but here you go. Being authentic and living in line with our values and purpose is certainly the only way to live a meaningful and happy life. We need to be careful not to approach authenticity too stubbornly and rigidly though. If we don’t allow ourselves to try on new capabilities and skills, because they feel foreign to us, in contrast with how we define ourselves, we run the big risk of missing opportunities for something new, for growth. Ibarra writes that if we stick too closely to our “true self”, if we simply stick to “our story”, we’re limiting ourselves. Today my tip is actually a game I want to challenge you to play: it’s the “Let’s pretend to” game. The game is about tapping into your natural ability to imagine and pretend. Like when as a kid you used to pretend to be a teacher, a policeman, a dragon, and so on… Focus on one change in your life you would like to “role play” that requires new capabilities (for instance promotion, a new job, or a new relationship). Now think of a specific person you know whose characteristics are akin to your new role, and use him/her as an inspiration. I’m not saying copy and paste the other person, but creatively imitate, in a way that works for you and fits with you. By approaching your “true self” with more flexibility and adaptability, you are opening yourself up to self-development and you are allowing change. As always we need to experiment and practice again and again this new way of being and doing until it becomes more familiar and, indeed, a new and genuine part of us! Change involves courage and hard work. By playing the “pretend to be“ game and by leveraging our natural ability to “perform” in new ways, we can expand our comfort zone and broaden the space of what feels natural and authentic. This is how we grow into our future possibilities. This is the essence of growth and the core of adult development. Have fun! I'm always here for you, Cristina
I truly believe this is the secret sauce to a fulfilled life, with less waste of time and energy and more space for self-empowerment and happiness. Imagine a path in the middle of a field, that was initially just slightly visible and that with time and many crossings, it has become very clear and easy to follow. This image helps us define a mental habit: a thought that we have processed many times, over and over again, until it has become habitual. It feels as if it’s not proactively created, it simply shows up in our minds when certain situations, people, or events trigger it. By constantly processing a thought we create a stronger and more connected neural pathway in our brain that make it easier to access. By creating mental habits, our brain tries to improve its efficiency: by allowing those habitual thoughts to operate in our brain, we live space and energy for more challenging mental processing. Human brains have a negativity bias though, which is part of our survival strategy as we continually scan our environment for threats. During our childhood, to respond to our fundamental need for safety, we create responses to possible physical and emotional risks, that with time, become ingrained, habitual, and unchallenged. Negative thoughts outnumber our positive thoughts daily, and, because of this bias, the majority of our habitual thoughts tend to be negative, and they keep us stuck, prevent us to see things objectively and they also create anxiety and exhaustion. So, how can we counteract those negative thoughts? Thanks to the concept of neuroplasticity, we know that our brain is not done, it's malleable and, as Dr. Tara Swart writes in her book "the source", we have the power to create new pathways, and overwrite unwanted thoughts with new desired ones. Here are some tips on how to create new positive mental habits. Acknowledge that thoughts are not facts: they are predictions, interpretations, and our attempt to make sense of the world, to create a pattern by recalling past memories. Create a diary of your habitual negative thoughts: metacognition (our ability to think our thoughts) allows us to notice and take some distance from our thoughts. Recognising the beliefs that are detrimental to our own growth and mental well-being is really the first step towards choice and true freedom. Every evening for a few weeks, take notes of what are the negative thoughts that are more recurrent. Notice the trigger, the emotion connected to it, and how you feel in your body when it shows up. By doing this exercise you improve your ability to catch that thought and challenge it. Reframe it: try to choose a different perspective to replace an old pattern of thoughts! For example, ask yourself what might be the opportunity for you in a situation or challenge (in terms of growth, something new to learn, or skills to strengthen). Recalling past achievements, and experiences that you have overcome, also help you embrace more affirming and courageous thoughts. Practice, practice, practice! Experiment with your new positive thoughts by reliving past events in your mind and also in your daily life. Brain change happens in phases and it takes repeated effort. Studies have shown that it takes between 2 – 6 months of consistent and conscious training for our brains to acquire a new mental habit and ‘unlearn’ an old way of thinking. It takes exercise, consistency, and repetition. But it pays off! Self-fulfilling prophecy: this has to be the cherry on the cake! Magically (even though it’s not magic but science), by training your mind to engage more often with positive thoughts, you will start seeing more and more positives in your life. As Dr. Tara Swart writes, "your amazingly, malleable, abundant and agile brain helps you spot opportunities and create and attract untold positive experiences into your life". By cultivating positive mental habits you prime your brain to notice more of what you are positively thinking and aspiring to in your daily life. We have to remember that: the way we think determines our lives. A simple but very powerful idea! It takes patience and consistency, but this is without a doubt one of the most fundamental works you get to do with yourself. Take this opportunity! If you need support and guidance, I’m here for you. Cristina
The past few weeks have been challenging and sad for me. I’ve lost my dear mum after a year of courageous fighting against a very harsh diagnosis. I’ve been trying to work on myself to arrive more prepared for the inevitable moment. The key for me has definitely been to turn this event into an opportunity to grow my ability to self-care, self-compassion, and self-acceptance. There is so much power in these life-changing practices, and I’m sure you would all benefit from reflecting and experimenting with bringing more of it into your life too. A mistake I struggle with is confusing self-esteem with self-compassion, and the work of Professor Kristin Neff has really helped me to clarify this interesting topic. It is a common belief that it is good to have a balanced level of self-esteem, that involves a positive evaluation of ourselves. It’s also true though that it very easy to move into dangerous territory when it becomes too low or too high. The concept of self-esteem has a couple of big limitations, particularly dangerous for the ones who tend to have a hyper achiever or perfectionist streak. 1- Self-esteem fails when it involves a judgment about ourselves: are we good enough, fast enough, rich enough, and so on? The pitfall is that in order to make a judgment you have to inevitably compare yourself to others, often bringing them down, in order to bring yourself up or vice versa, depending on your personality. It’s really about how you stand out among others. This creates separation, arrogance, and often prejudice. 2- Self-esteem fails completely when we fail. If we cannot succeed at something, we start noticing that there is something fundamentally wrong with ourselves. When we don’t succeed in something, when something out of our control happens to us, the ego response is to activate our threat defense system: we attack ourselves with harsh self-criticism, so that we become at the same time the attacker and the attacked. This mindset leads us to a sense of abnormality and makes everything worse by activating negative thought patterns connected with victimism and blame. Here is when it’s time to call in the power of self-compassion. Self-compassion is not judging ourselves positively, but it’s relating to ourselves kindly. According to self-compassion expert Kristin Neff, there are three main elements to self-compassion: Kindness: simply treating yourself as you would treat a friend. It seems so easy and natural, but very rarely we actually do that. Instead, we brutalise ourselves with mean words and beliefs and we play them on repeat in our heads. Common humanity: being imperfect is really what connects us with others! Instead of separating our experience on this earth from the others, common humanity provides us with a bigger picture about how imperfection, failure and grief are common traits of being human. They might touch us to a different degree, at different times, but they are all part of our beautifully human life. Presence in the moment: we often don’t even notice our suffering and self-criticism because we are so used to negative and damaging emotions and thoughts that they become normality. Mindfulness and validating what’s happening in the present moment allow to acknowledge that we are suffering so that we can give ourselves compassion. It can be painful to allow negative emotions to wash over us, but it passes and then we can move forward. So these are the 3 tips I would love for you to experiment with: Treat and talk to yourself as you would with your friend. Widen your point of view to our common humanity and feel part of it instead of separate and alone. Be aware of your emotions and thoughts. Remember those are not the sky, but just clouds that are meant to pass by and go. Finally, by practicing self-compassion you are not being selfish, or complacent. Research from Kristin Neff shows that those who learn to be self-compassionate have less fear of failure and also find it easier to persevere. If we show ourselves kindness and unconditional love, we create a place of safety and strength from which we can pull ourselves up after a fall, sometimes take the more difficult choice, and ultimately commit to live a more fulfilled life. You are a human being worthy of unconditional love, take responsibility for taking care of yourselves and see what difference it makes. Please send this letter to anyone in your life that might be going through a tough and challenging time. This might really help them! I’m always here for you, Cristina
C omparing ourselves to others is another human trait intrinsic to our nature and necessary to our experience on this earth. Indeed, it is useful and supportive when it motivates us to improve and inspires us to be better human beings. Unfortunately most often, comparing ourselves with others creates a bunch of negative emotions like envy, frustration and feeling stuck. When these negative emotions arise we tend to lose sight of our story and we lose ourselves in the choices that other people made in completely different contexts. We waste precious time on negative and toxic emotions that just bring us down, instead of investing it in our projects and plans. Most of the studies done on this subject show that around 75% of participants have experienced envy in the prior year. It seems to be a very common problem to have. So, here are my tips for you: We have to remind ourselves that we all have a very unique DNA, we value different things and we are on different paths. we just cannot compare a cherry with a strawberry (sorry, I’ve been eating lots of those recently, hence the reference to them). Notice when the self-pitying voice of our victim saboteur is triggered and is making us feel uniquely flawed and disadvantaged. The emotions that usually accompany this limiting belief are hopelessness and loneliness. If possible avoid or prepare yourself for those situations, people or places that trigger your comparison thoughts and also label those beliefs as lies and set them aside. Instead, focus intentionally on more supportive and encouraging thoughts. Take some precious time to revisit your coordinates (values) and to fire up your why. Also practice gratitude. The strength and energy we get with these simple exercises really have a big positive impact on the way we shift and choose our thoughts. Compare yourself inwards: The only real competition we should have is who we were yesterday. We can see real growth through reflection and we can give ourselves a very well-deserved pack on the back for our growth and development. We need to be proud of our story, the challenges we have overcome, the easy bits, and the most difficult ones. It’s our unique path and we need to stand proudly on it. Use the people you look up to as a guide. Ask for questions, advice, and wisdom. Make them your mentor. By choosing them and “using” them, you are more empowered to stay focused on you and make them the “signal” of where you need to concentrate. Be vulnerable enough to show your curiosity and interest instead of being crushed by negative comparisons. And finally, of course, social media can play a very negative role in this matter. When we scroll down the pages of our favourite app, we tend to forget that we are simply comparing others’ curated exterior life with our most vulnerable inner world. This seems simply very unfair to me! So be selective with the people you follow and be mindful of the time you spend on social media. If you can take away something from this note, this would be it: the only person you should be comparing yourself to is yourself! Focus on growing from within, being kinder, more resilient, authentic, and aware of your own path. Every minute spent comparing your life to someone else’s is a minute lost on creating your own. So, let’s say yes to being inspired, motived, and guided by others, and let’s say a big resounding NO to be dragged down in a place of hopelessness and waste by useless comparison. We don’t deserve it and we can do better: water our beautiful and unique grass! I’m going to leave you with this quote: "Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is you-er than you." - Dr. Seuss. I’m always here for you. PS: As always feel free to forward this letter to friends, colleagues, and family who might benefit from it, thanks!
How not to take things TOO personally Very often I’m asked the following questions: How can I not take things so personally? How can I bounce off any critique and negative comments that come my way? Everyone longs to be free from that feeling of being punched in the stomach every time someone shares with them negative feedback (warning: not many people know how to share feedback!), or doesn’t consider our point of view, or attacks us. Unfortunately, it’s simply not possible to become completely immune from the comments of others or from the impact that others’ negative behaviors have on us. We might manage for a brief period of time, especially when we are completely aligned with our core values and purpose. But it’s simply human to seek approval from others , it’s part of who we are as social beings. It helps us create our own identity. But there is also some good news: there are some strategies to help us not to take things TOO personally. Here are the tips: Remember that it’s not about you! Feedback and critiques are data wrapped in other people’s beliefs. We tend to be egocentric and believe that the world works according to our own rules. Considering that not many people know how to deliver constructive feedback, it really helps to go to the core and to try to see the deeper intention of the other person or the situations that might have influenced their comment and behavior. The spotlight effect explains how we tend to believe that other people think of us much more than they actually do. So just let it go, stop ruminating about it, the others have already moved on while you are giving away your time, energy and power! Shift the spotlight to more positive thoughts! When we really struggle to let critiques and attacks get passed us, perhaps they are targeting a part of us that we haven’t been able to come to terms with. Critiques really hurt when they mirror what we believe of ourselves. Then give yourself some empathy and be vulnerable. Don’t give space to your inner judge, instead reflect on how you could accept and see if there are any learning opportunities. Finally, even though someone might step on you and crunch you up with their words or actions, remember that you are still you , and your worth is still the same. This is probably the hardest thing to believe, but it's true! If you have a few minutes to spare, I recommend watching the Ted talk by Frederik Imbo: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LnJwH_PZXnM I’m always here for you, Cristina
Meaning Recently, I’ve been researching and reflecting on one of my favourite coaching topics: the impact that finding meaning in our lives has on our wellbeing and happiness. I consider myself so lucky to witness over and over again the massive impact that clarifying the meaning we give to our existence has on my clients. It’s really an honour to be able to notice the awareness, the clarity, the strong foundation, and all the opportunities that it provides. So, what’s it all about? According to the important work of Dr. Emily Esfahani Smith in “The power of meaning” , meaning has 4 main pillars : belonging, purpose, storytelling, and transcendence. These pillars are all accessible to us, and it’s really worth trying to bring them into our lives and become aware of the impact they have. Here they are: Belonging : humans are wired for connection, it was actually a condition for our survival. We all want to be seen, accepted, and loved. Feeling rejected deprives us of meaning. Interestingly, neuroscientist Matthew Lieberman found that heartbreak, rejection, and feeling not liked are experienced in our brain exactly like physical pain. To create close and intimate relationships, we have to invest in opening up to others, create experiences that make ourselves and the others feel seen and that will lead others to reciprocate. Purpose is the overarching goal that keeps us on track, it permeates all the parts of our life because it’s far-reaching and a level above the commitment and tasks of our daily life. Purpose is about how we can uniquely contribute and impact the world around us, no matter how big or small it is. Storytelling is the powerful and innate desire we all have of making sense of the world around us. We can see the events of our lives as disjointed, or we can try to see them as part of a grand design, where nothing was ever wasted and where the experiences contribute to creating a “more developed” version of ourselves every single day of our life. Finally, transcendence is about feeling part of something bigger and you can experience that in the majestic beauty of nature while stargazing, when listening to a beautiful piece of music, or in front of a work of art. It’s about going beyond the everyday and experiencing that sense of profound humility in front of something bigger than us. You might be wondering, "What are the benefits of working on clarifying our meaning?" · It gives a sense of direction (not a destination!) to our existence. We end up knowing where we are on the map of our development and we are ready for the growth that awaits us. We become ready to experiment with life to help us travel in the direction we have chosen. · Having a sense of our meaning brings us closer to the version of ourselves that thrives on love and acceptance instead of fear and judgment . Feeling we have a meaning and knowing its main pillars helps us manage our judge, our inner critic, and gives us the freedom to listen to our own story, to be responsible for our path. · It helps us to let go of the need to constantly be in control of the complex lives we lead, an unachievable goal that creates frustration and unnecessary pain. By accepting that everything that happens is part of a grand design and by focusing on a direction, instead of a single outcome, we are ready for more possibilities and more attuned to what we really want at a deeper experiential level. So, my tip for you is to try to notice how these 4 pillars are present in your life and perhaps focus on the one/ones that need to become part of your life with more awareness. Notice the impact that doing this work has on your well-being and happiness. Be curious and experiment! Perhaps, smile more, listen deeply, write down the legacy you want to live behind in this world (as a reminder for yourself), share with someone the perfect story of your life, spend more time in nature... These are just suggestions, follow your intuition, create possibilities and please let me know how it goes! I leave you with a quote by Mark Twain: “The two Most Important Days in Your Life: The Day You Were Born and the Day You Discover Why” I’m always here for you, Cristina
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